Is There A Key To Success?

It is true that we become what we think about most. I don’t know of anyone who disputes this claim and it has been written about so much over many decades.

What does this mean for us who are living an average life with not much excitement? Have we missed something when growing up?

I have found by reading biographies of succesful people that they all have had a belief and a desire at some stage in their life, often quite early on, that they would accomplish more. They have then gone on to find a way and become succesful. I am sure that when they were on this journey they shared the path with others who fell away to a mediocre life leaving the path to those who had something in them that was going to be the ‘key’ to success.

The ‘key’ to the door of success would then be the difference and if we could find it and understand how to use it we too could be a success.

I have found that it comes back to us becoming what we think about the most. Which is led by many things including who we spend time with, whose opinions we listen to, what books we read, etc.

The person we spend most time with is us. For some people this can be a very good thing, for others not so good. The little voice in our head that makes all of our decisions by creating a feeling before we consciously make the decision. If we could get this little voice (our subconscious) working towards our desired outcome then that would be the ‘key’.

Test your subconscious now, think of your dream or major goal. What is the first thought or feeling that creates? If it is of self-doubt or you have managed to find all the reasons that you may not achieve it then you need to fix that. If your thoughts are of excitement and feelings as if you are there already then you have found they key to success already. With a subconcious on our side we will find the ways to achieve instead of the excuses not to. We will enjoy the journey and attract the right people and circumstances our way. We will become what we think about.

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Week 26 – Final Week

It would appear a good amount of time for establishing new routines and changing the course of your life is 26 weeks. Every week we have progressed and find ourselves at the end of the course ready to tackle whatever life has planned for us.

Unlike other courses I feel ready to not only implement everything we have learnt but also share with anyone who wishes to find a way to permanently change their thinking. Mark and the team have given us more than just some knowledge, I will be forever grateful to them for that!

Knowing that the only activity which our spirit possesses is the power to think and that thought and the spirit must therefore be creative is life changing. It is obvious in a way but I managed to get through 41 years without giving this as much credit as it deserved. Everything must first start with a thought. The pc I’m writing this on, every component within it started as a thought which became reality. Would it be fair to assume that everything in my future must start as a thought? I believe so and cultivating the type of mind which can produce the results I desire has to be a priority.

A mind which is focused on negatives, always looking for the problems and finding them will not produce the future I desire. Just knowing that is life changing and would benefit so many I meet daily. It is very easy to get dragged into a negative mind.

Thankfully it is also very easy to cultivate a positive mind and look for reasons to be grateful and find them. To create a cycle of positivity is so rewarding and I’m sure anyone could do it. The good news is that you don’t need medication you already have it within you and with a little help can find it. More importantly by finding it yourself you will have the methods whenever you need them.

 

 

Week 25 – Self Reliance

Reading Emerson’s essay on self reliance has opened my consciousness to different ways of thinking over the last couple of weeks. I do find it hard to read Emerson’s work as the language is a challenge to understand sometimes but the messages he conveys are worth the effort.

This passage is a good example.

  • ‘It is the harder, because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know it. It is easy in the world to live after the worlds opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after your own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.’

What a great message to remember when we are making decisions about our lives. It is all too easy to follow someone else’s opinions and try to please others with your actions. It is just as easy to think you know the best for others around you and give your opinions to them. We often have opinions about others with little regard for what they may have as a vision for their future. It is true that 95% of those around us don’t have a clear vision with a plan to achieve it but that does not give us the right to impose our thoughts. Wouldn’t it be better to inspire them to form their own independent plan? Or even just know that they have the ability to form their own plan if they wished to?

That would seem to be the difference which I would like to help propagate far and wide. To inform people that they can do well for themselves without influencing them to do it my way. To inspire others to take a positive course towards their own dharma would be the most rewarding way to spend a life on this wonderful planet.

It is true that we all know what our dharma is but for some of us it is buried very deep. I personally didn’t realise that I had one until I understood that we all have that little voice deep inside us that knows so much about what we are and where we are heading. Hearing that voice and giving it the credit that it was due was my first step and although only a small step to some it was massive for me. I had given too much credit to other voices which seemed to know what I should do and how I should do it, they almost always had my best interest at heart but how could they possible now what my dharma was if I didn’t even know myself?

Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.

Week 24 – Desire For Riches

Desire is possibility seeking expression. I believe it is possible to become rich and this feeds my desire. I find it less intimidating now and I am growing into a person who would feed this desire and allow it to express itself in work and effort.

Some find discomfort in talking about becoming rich and I felt the same until I understood more about becoming rich. I believe that if you don’t feel at ease with something then you will never achieve it as you will be living and thinking in conflict. I believe that it is impossible to reach my highest self without becoming rich. For this reason it would be sinful to not achieve all that I can.

To satisfy my Mind, Body and Soul and achieve my full potential I believe I need riches.

Mind – To satisfy my mind I will need books and time to study them. I will need to travel and feed my mind with different cultures and surroundings. I will also need intellectual recreation which I can satisfy with art, fine foods and objects.

Body – To satisfy my body I need to live fully with freedom from excessive toil. I need to be comfortable with plenty of rest and recreation.

Soul – To satisfy my soul I need love. My soul needs to feel love but also give it and express it. To love is almost a magical force which allows us to fully express ourselves. To be able to give I must first have enough to satisfy myself and to simply accumulate just enough would be wasteful as I would not be able to give.

The above would not be possible without becoming rich.

Some may say that you can live in poverty and still be happy, I would agree and have seen it myself in travels both near and far away. It was a remarkable sight in Marrakech when it became obvious that those with the least had pleasant expressions and a life to live. I was not born there, I am here in the UK surrounded by opportunity. The economy is moving towards direct selling and an age of information. I am at the heart of it so to form a desire to just get by would be wasteful and serve no-one but myself.

So there it is, I’m out of the closet and happy to talk about becoming rich. I will not gain riches by taking away from others, I will instead be creative and find riches through building and creating new ways of building value. If I can do this in a way that adds to the whole without taking anything away from others then I be a positive force driving forwards. With this in mind I can be proud of what I achieve and use this as a positive force for those around me.

Week 23 – Self Discovery

This week we have been set a challenge, it’s massive. My old self is resisting this one but it must surely be the way forward, I mean it would not have been suggested if it was not going to have a big payoff.

The challenge is to sit or at least be quiet and with only oneself for a length of time. To get the maximum benefit from this 3 or 4 days have been suggested. Thankfully for us beginners a day would be a good start with a couple of half days to complement it.

I can think of so many reasons why I can’t do this. I have a family, job and a business to consider. How would I manage to be at one with myself for a whole day? My phone would be full of texts, emails and missed calls and I would miss interactions with my fantastic wife and son. It would be a selfish act and require support from those I love.

The payoff would be insight into me and where I am heading, I would be gaining a connection with my spiritual nature and an understanding of whether I need to make adjustments. Apparently once I have truly quietened my mind I will gain so much more than I can comprehend now as I write this.

I know that this level of thinking and understanding is something I desire and I am adapting my DMP in life to reflect that I need the freedom to do this. Not just once either, I know that this can become part of me and reflecting on life both past and present can allow me to live this life fully. I am excited to know that a day will come when I can be with myself for 3 or 4 days and fully experience life as a result. I’m picturing a Hawaiian beach with no interruptions.

As for now, well I need to discuss this with my wife, unless she reads this post before she comes home from work first. I need to accept compromise to begin with and improve in the future. The fact that this is so hard for me to do is the biggest driving force making me want to do this. How can I have designed a life for myself where taking a day out is so hard to do? I am here with all the stuff I have created and after 41 years on this planet I feel trapped by it.

I am blessed with my fantastic family and we have a plan which is coming into fruition in the next couple of years. The plan allows for us to find ourselves and some time freedom. We can see the results lining up but this serves as a reminder that we must be happy today and not sacrifice today with a hope for a better tomorrow. I know I can make this work and enjoy the process too.

What would the person I intend to become do next?

 

Week 22 – Live This Day As If It’s Your Last!

This month I am reading Scroll 5 from Og Mandino’s book the Greatest Salesman. The message is as the title says, live this day as if it’s your last.

Sounds fun at first but I read on into the chapter before spending all my savings and liquidating my investments. It starts with the message to live today not to just let today drift by without much notice. Good advice as each day is a gift not given to everyone and to waste it should be a crime.

Yesterday and tomorrow can be distracting from today. Reliving failures, dwelling on mistakes does not right them. We can learn from mistakes and then move on, they have served their purpose. Tomorrow can be enjoyed tomorrow, I am as guilty as anyone for letting an upcoming event distract me from today. Wouldn’t it be better to get value from today and then do the same tomorrow too? What if today is my last and I spent it thinking of tomorrow or yesterday and let the last page of my life be blank.

We are surrounded by friends, family and people who all matter. We are encouraged in this chapter to notice them now. I am glad to be reminded of this as I have a fantastic wife, son and family along with great friends and businesses which many would envy. I am truly blessed and to get tangled up in things which don’t matter would distract me from what I have and take me away from appreciating these things. I have seen so many people throw away days and weeks over things which really don’t matter in the long run and I have done it myself but no time for regrets lets learn the lesson and think of it no more.

Being happy is a choice and I make it daily to enjoy this day just in case it’s my last.

Week 21 – Multitasking

The Stanford Report published on the 24th August 2009 is very interesting reading.

The experiment was conducted to find out how multitaskers were performing so that we could all learn from them and benefit from their gift or skills. We live in a time of constant information and as a result can find ourselves trying to accomplish different things whilst taking in information from different sources. Were multitaskers processing information differently and sifting things better than the rest of us? Were they using their brains better to store details?

The results were opposite to those expected when the research was conducted. This was a shock at first but when they drilled down into the causes it became obvious that those who were training themselves to take in multi sources of information at the same time were in fact loosing out and under performing as a result. Multitaskers were finding it difficult to ignore certain irrelevant details and concentrate on what was required of them in the study. Being unable to filter out what is not relevant to your current goal could result in loosing ground to those who can stay focused. ‘They are suckers for irrelevancy’ said communication Professor Clifford Nass, ‘everything distracts them’.

I can learn a good lesson from this myself and apply it to my life. It is easy to have the TV on or emails open when working on something. I remember myself recently planning a presentation with Facebook open and achieving very little as a result in the 20 minutes involved. I would have done far better with 15 minutes of work followed by 5 minutes of recreation rather than combining the two.

With us living in the information age it would be easy to remember this as the barrage of information is only going one way.

I will no longer be kidding myself that I am a great multitasker and I see the results immediately.